AN INTERGENERATIONAL MOTHER/DAUGHTER CONVERSATION

Season 3

EPISODE 1:

“Letting Go” Series

 

MOMMY GUILT: NO MORE SHAME IN YOUR GAME

(54:53)

January 5, 2022

DESCRIPTION:

Motherhood is one of the most incredible and gratifying jobs around. It is also one of the most challenging. Raising little humans is tough enough. Add a little internal (or external) guilt and shame, and it’s easy for moms to question their parenting abilities. The struggle of mommy guilt is real, but expert guest Jaime Mathews joins us to offer hope and help for those who are ready to “Let it Go”! (The guilt. Not the kids. 😉)

 

 

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EPISODE SUMMARY:

Jaime Mathews went from being joyously single to happily married–with children. Becoming an instant stepmother to her husband’s two children brought the first wave of mommy-guilt. She was soon pregnant—with twins. Add more mommy-guilt!

An entrepreneur and an otherwise grounded and powerful woman, Jaime still struggled with how the world defines a “good mother”. And, like many of us, she questioned whether she was really a good enough parent.  Why didn’t her Christmas photos look like the people on social media? Should she be home more? Should she hold her children more, or should she not? Should she schedule fewer playdates or more? Was she present enough? The internalized self-flagellation and criticism, self-doubt in addition to the outward influences continued to press upon and consume Jaime for over three years. 

Then, one day while looking at her reflection in the mirror, Jaime realized that she had lost sight of who she really was and recognized that it was time for a change. While her love and devotion to her children was in no way diminished, Jaime began to better care of her mental, physical, and emotional self. This not only helped her become more vibrant and joyous, it also allowed her to be available to her children in a way that nourished and benefited everyone.

Through disciplined “me time”, exercising, journaling, and devotionals, Jaime rediscovered herself, her joys, her loves, and her desires. One of her proudest accomplishments that occurred as a result of her consistent internal work and “mommy guilt” release, was the publishing of a book she had written and shelved numerous times.  “Sunroofs and Shoeboxes” is all about how one can take a negative situation, flip it around, and find the joys within. 

Our hope for all of you moms and moms-to-be is that you realize that while you are a mom, you’re not only a mom. Continue to love and take care of yourself, and never forget your dreams. You matter, too!

 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What is “mommy guilt”.
  • How can you recognize if you suffer from mommy guilt.
  • Why self-discipline is important.
  • How to drop the guilt and live fully in the present.
  • The beauty of timing.
  • Why mom’s dreams matter too!

…And, soooo much more!

 

Enjoy the “Tea”,

Nia (& Deb)
Resources & Links:
SHOW MENTIONS, RECOMMENDATIONS & HELPS:
  • Check out more from Jaime on Thrive Global, a leading global behavior change technology company that uses science, storytelling, role models and technology to create and sustain positive new habits for consumers and employees by delivering science-backed Microsteps to help individuals and corporations improve well-being, mental resilience and productivity to end the stress and burnout epidemic.  (https://thriveglobal.com/authors/jaime-mathews/)
     
JAIME’S BLOG & CONTACT INFO:
NEED A REGULAR DOSE OF MINDFUL MAMA ENCOURAGEMENT? CHECK OUT JAIME’S BLOG FOR MORE “SWEETNESS” ON EVERYTHING FROM HEALTHY LIVING TO GARDENING TO ENTREPRENEURSHIP!   https://thesweetlife.co/blog/
 
GET SOCIAL: (@JaimeLeeMathews)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaimeleemathews
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaimeleemathews/?hl=en
 
 
JAIME’S BOOK:

Sunroofs & Shoeboxes: A Journey of Unexpected Health & Gratitude

An enchantingly contagious book that will leave readers with unbridled optimism.

Train yourself to find happiness in a coffee mug, joy in the laughter of a stranger, and mental wellness with an open Costco parking lot.

Seeing the beauty in the mundane goes a long way towards leading a happy life. But the daily practice of gratitude is a muscle that needs to be flexed regularly. Jaime teaches you to look at life with a brand new set of eyes, every day. Eventually, you won’t even need to think about it, and you will start to see opportunities in the biggest challenges, see the extraordinary in the most ordinary things, and your outlook on life will be changed for the better.

So flex those muscles now, and take a deep dive into the unbridled enthusiasm and contagious optimism of Jaime L. Mathews.

From the health benefits of opening the sunroof of your car and letting the sun in, to turning shoeboxes into treasure troves of memories to cherish, Jaime L. Mathews shows you the positive side in the things of every day life.

ORDER YOUR COPY HERE!

 

 

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