AN INTERGENERATIONAL MOTHER/DAUGHTER CONVERSATION

 

“Failure is not an option. It’s a privilege for those who try.”   – Anonymous

 

 

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Taking risks and metaphorically jumping out of a plane without a parachute can sometimes be frightening to me! However, in the end, taking that giant leap really gives one more opportunities to learn and succeed. Jumping without a parachute allows you to embrace failure and try new things. You get to determine what works and doesn’t work. Ultimately, it will help you succeed in all areas of your life.

Start with Small Risks.

Fortunately, you don’t have to jump head first into uncharted waters from the moment the whistle blows. Start small. Say “yes” to little things in the beginning, and gradually take bigger risks. If there’s a chance that you think you’ll mess up or you won’t get the results you’d like- go for it anyway!

Say “yes” to signing up for the Speech and Debate class. Say “yes” to being in a musical. Say “yes” to taking on snowboarding or skiing. Things might not go exactly the way you want them to go, no matter how much you plan. Don’t let fear discourage you.

Believe it or not, starting small minimizes your risk. If you fail, no big deal. If it works out, it provides a boost and a stepping stone to accomplish even greater feats.

Get In the Habit Of Taking Risks And Trying New Things

One one occasion, my family and I had offered our musical services for an event at Grand Central Terminal in New York City. First, we had to audition. We practiced one piece for a while, and loved rocking out to it. Our performance was a hit. The judges loved it. On concert day, the crowd was so responsive that the organizers requested that we play another song. We actually had one that we hadn’t had adequate time to prepare.

Understandably, my Mom was not happy about playing a song that wasn’t performance-ready. “You know Mom”, I said, throwing her an exasperated teen look, “sometimes you just have to jump without a parachute.” She blinked for a moment and nodded her head. I smiled as we launched into the piece. I still remember the roar of the crowd as we finished. Afterwards, my Mom thanked me for that nudge and reminder.

Believe me, I know it’s not easy to get into the habit of taking risks, especially if you’ve made a practice of planning your every move. Some people like and feel more comfortable when their little duckies are all in a row. They like to identify their course of action before committing to something new. In some instances, planning takes away some of the fun and stifles the creative juices that are beneficial when being spontaneous. Breaking out of this mindset is not always easy. You can begin by taking risks on a regular basis.

This doesn’t mean that you should never plan. Sometimes, a plan can, quite literally, save your life. If you’ve decided to go camping in the wilderness with your family, I suggest you make some sort of plan.

Embrace the Possibility of Failure

Without a doubt, jumping without a parachute takes courage. “Something” will undoubtedly happen. Sometimes, you’ll nail your landing. And, other times, you may feel the full impact of the ground. You can learn from both,  take your next risks with more awareness.

By embracing failure, and paying attention to the lessons, you’ll improve at whatever you set out to do. The faster you fail, the faster you’ll learn, and thus the faster you’ll succeed. Start embracing those failures. Take risks and reach your goals in record time.

Remember, taking risks is about seizing opportunities and exploring new possibilities. You never know, you may find out that you love something so much that it changes your dreams or schooling plans. Anything is possible.

 

“Go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.” — Jimmy Carter.

So go out there. Be bold! Fight! Win! And, call me when you get back, darlings-I love our chats.

 

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